When You’ve Been Holding It All Together for Too Long

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If you’ve been holding it all together for so long that you’ve forgotten what it feels like to exhale—this is for you.

I know what it’s like to be the strong one. The dependable one. The one who keeps going because stopping feels like crumbling.
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But here’s the truth: Holding it together isn’t the same as being whole.

There’s a difference between surviving and living.
Between managing and healing.
Between doing what you should and receiving what you need.

This week, I sat down for a beautiful conversation that reminded me—rest is a necessary part of success.
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​Letting go is brave.
And healing doesn’t always look like doing more. Sometimes, it looks like releasing everything you were never meant to carry in the first place.

You don’t have to earn rest.
You don’t have to prove worthiness.
You don’t have to keep holding it all.

This is your permission slip to soften, exhale, and receive what your soul’s been crying out for.

3 Practical Steps

1. Notice where you're bracing.
   ​ Where is your body tight, tense, tired? That’s a sign of what needs to be released.
2. Replace pressure with presence.
   ​ You don't have to perform to be loved. God's love is unconditional, even in stillness.
3. Let one thing go.
   ​ Just one. Today. Choose ease over effort in one area, and watch what opens.
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3 Points to Ponder

• What have I been carrying that God never asked me to hold?
• Where have I been strong at the expense of being supported?
• What would change if I allowed myself to rest without guilt?
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Scripture for the Soul

“Come to Me, all who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest.”
— Matthew 11:28

You don’t have to hustle for healing.
You don’t have to prove anything to be loved.
You don’t have to keep it all together to be seen as worthy.

Jesus never asked you to carry this alone.
He simply said: Come.
​Not when you’ve fixed it. Not when you’ve figured it out. Not when you’re ready or when everything is perfect.
​But now. Just as you are.

Let Him be your rest.
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This Week on The Confident Woman Podcast

The Pressure to Hold It All Together: A Conversation About Rest, Identity, and Rebuilding

In this episode, we unpack the difference between survival and surrender—and why we need more softness, less pressure, and true rest to become who God is calling us to be.

Inside this conversation:

• How performance creates pressure and disconnects us from identity
• The signs you’re living in survival mode
• Why healing can’t happen when you’re still hustling
• A fresh reminder: You don’t have to hold it all together to be held by God

If you’ve been strong for too long, this one’s for you. → Listen now​
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Reminder:
You don’t have to keep pushing.
You’re allowed to pause.
You’re allowed to receive.
You’re allowed to rest.

Let this be the moment you stop holding it all together—and start holding onto what’s true.

You’re not behind. You’re becoming.
​And I’m walking this journey with you.

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XO,

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